I'm sure many people would debate whether or not love is a choice. I believe that it is not only a choice, but a deliberate, well-thought out choice. I think that love requires strategy, because there are many opponents of love. The statistics about divorce are enough for some to never consider marriage. The top 3 causes for divorce are sex, money, and communication. These are just a few of the opponents of love. About 50% of US marriages are remarried or re-coupled, which means a lot of them are blended families. Add children and jealous exes to the previous list. That's a lot of opposition. Love these days must be deliberate, otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure. Don't ignore red flags. Don't brush issues under the rug. Recognize when the relationship has gone past its expiration date. Be willing to compromise. Communication is key. And don't be afraid to seek out a third party mediator. We all need help sometimes. I am a big proponent for love. Let's be deliberate in who, why, and how we love.